People keep asking for help with making decisions. Should I choose A or B?
I get that it can be tough to make a decision. But why are you giving your power away to someone else? Why not take the power back and get more comfortable with your own decision-making skills?
Your mind can trip you up with choices at times and that’s why people get stuck in a loop of asking for other people’s input.
Don’t get me wrong. There are times to seek advice, especially with legal and medical stuff. But even then it’s best to listen, digest, and then come to your own conclusions.
The biggest thing with making decisions is to check in with your whole body. There are a number of ways to do this and today discusses one process.
If you are making a big decision you can use an idea that I first heard from Debbie Rosas, founder of Nia.
Spend an entire day imagining that you have made the decision and your choice is A.
(Maybe you’ve decided that you are moving, taking a new job, or breaking up with someone.) Spend the whole day noticing how you feel with choice A.
Notice how your body feels. Is your body feeling expanded and freer? Or contracted and tight?
Notice what your thoughts are like. Are you excited? Are you dreading the choice? Are you thinking about all the limitations getting in your way?
Really pay attention to how your body and mind feel.
Then spend the next day, imagining that you made choice B.
What kind of feedback is your body giving you? Where do you feel it in your body?
What kinds of thoughts are you experiencing?
Really use your senses to notice where you are at with having made choice B.
After two days of paying attention to yourself, you will have gained clarity about your choices.
Don’t get stuck in over-analyzing everything.
Consider that your body is a compass and is infinitely wiser than your mind.
What choice felt more expansive in your body? That’s where you feel more alive. That’s where there is more opportunity.
Your mind might be scared and have a whole story about why you can’t do something, but your body does not function that way.
What did you choose A or B?
You are an intuitive soul with extrasensory feedback at your service 24 hours a day.
You’ve got this.
Trust yourself.
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LOVING that blogpost! And the advice.
But one thing I’m wondering … what if you gotta make a decision on behalf of someone else?
Cause I’m just in that sort of situation now …
I know what I would like to do and what would make ME feel better. And yes, I do what you advise – I imagine what it would feel like if I had made that decision … and if I feel relieved I know it’s the right thing. For ME.
But this decision concerns my son. So it’s not all about me. 🙁 Do you have any advice on how to figure out what is the best for someone else?
Can you still use your own body for that?
xox,
Ursula
Thanks, Ursula, for your comments. Honestly, I still use my body & intuition to help me make that decision for someone else. Between the two, I am able to sort that out. You’ve got to trust your instincts as a mother.
You can also use muscle testing, using your son’s arm, to see what his body says. Have him make a statement concerning the first choice. Test his arm. Have him make a statement about the second choice. Test his arm. His body will clearly tell you which choice is best for him.
Great point! I am sure there are online videos that show how to do this.
Wonderful, wonderful post Rachel!! Simple do-able steps. Great insight here! Thanks so much for sharing it!!
You are welcome. So glad I could give some insight. 🙂