Rachel Boucher

Life Coach For Your Soul

How To Trust Yourself

Are you looking for guidance?  Not sure that you can trust yourself?   I have created a free, online course called Access Your Intuition and people are asking me how to trust your intuition.  And I've been thinking about what my recipe is for learning to trust myself.   So here is one way that I became better at developing my intuition.  (It is by no means the only way.)   Recipe: Don't listen to yourself. Screw up really, really big. Ignore what your body … [Read more...]

Are You In Shackles?

  Are you feeling confined?   Last week I went to the zoo and found the elephants in their cage, shackled by chains.   I could relate as lately I have been feeling like I am in shackles, confined, and unable to escape my metal cage. Or is it a mental cage?   Why do I feel caged in?    Albert Ellis who created Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy said:   "people are not disturbed by things but rather by their view of things."   He … [Read more...]

Me & My Big Mouth

The other day, I was sitting in a meeting holding myself in check because I had been told the night before by a friend that my words were too biting and I should be careful about expressing my thoughts during this meeting.  So I held my tongue, thinking that whatever I say might not be pretty.   I think my face was turning colors though as another person in the meeting kept looking over at me.   Flash back to over a decade ago...   During the 1990s,  I ended up at a Harvard … [Read more...]

How To Get Grounded

Are you feeling shaky or frazzled?   This morning I was feeling anxious about a few things.  You know that feeling you get when you feel off-kilter and you are not sure you can get yourself back to center?   Yeah.  It was like that.   And I knew that working at a fast pace to get everything done would only make it worse.  So what did I do instead?   I slowed down.   It's the exact opposite of what you would expect.  But I have discovered that when feeling … [Read more...]

Why Failure Is Fantastic

  I am a failure.   Yes.  You heard right.   I am a failure.  A complete miserable failure.  At least sometimes.   I have failed at many things and I will fail again and again and again.   Wow!  Doesn't that seem weird to read?   Our culture is so hung up on success that we forget how much value there is in failing.   If you have never tried, then you cannot possibly succeed.   And let's face it, if there is … [Read more...]

What I Learned From My Best Friend (Part 2)

I learned a lot from my friend, Paula, who died recently of cancer at the tender age of 44.  She inspired me on many levels as noted in my earlier post. This week I feel the need to continue.   Our friendship was rich and incredibly supportive for a long time and can best be summarized by this quote. "At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us." ~ … [Read more...]

What I Learned From My Best Friend (Part 1)

    My friend, Paula, died a few days ago from cancer. 44 is too young to die!   We were best friends during my 20s. We met as roommates when I was a sophomore in college and then our friendship took off. We made each other laugh. We supported each other through break ups, heartaches, jobs, laugh fests, and so much more. She was my rock for a very long time. And I learned a lot from her.   I thought it fitting to pay tribute to her and share some things I … [Read more...]

Are You Making Yourself Small?

  The other day I walked to Kundalini yoga class.  I placed my mat on the wooden floor in a small, sunny room filled with people.  An older, gray-haired gentleman asked me to move over as he needed more space.  So I pulled my mat over a little but left space for the next person on my right.   Even though I had shifted over, the man on my left, gestured that he needed more space.  I explained how I needed to leave room for the next person.  But he kept talking about needing … [Read more...]

How To Embrace A Bad Day

Ever have one of those days where you just hate your life and you are feeling miserable?  Yeah.  It was like that this morning.  One thing after another that made me think that my life sucks.  And I was getting all grumpy and snarly.   So I tried to talk myself out of the mood.   But that DID NOT WORK.   I was resisting my bad mood.   Resistance makes everything more difficult.  So I decided to just steep in my “I hate my life” mood and really wallowed around … [Read more...]

Is Someone Gaslighting You?

A Crazy-Making Strategy   Did you ever see the 1944 film Gaslight with Ingrid Bergman?  A woman moves into a house with her husband.  He tries to make her think that she is crazy by flickering the gas lights, but claiming that it is not really happening.  He does other tactics as well to convince her that everything is in her head and she is the one losing it.   That didn't happen.  It's your imagination.  We never had that conversation.   The movie (and earlier … [Read more...]